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Please tell mom it's not her fault.

I don't even know where to begin the update. Friday I was thrown for a loop after a series of DMs. a person, I thought I could rely on said the following after I asked for advice. (she's a nurse, that's why I asked, pediatric on at that)
Context - I had made it clear that I was asking for my child, my daughter, that we are seeking help, but asking what I do to be supportive in the meantime. Her advice.

But she needs to get herself to a shrink, stat

Also possibly the parents

Since I'm guessing they are somewhat responsible 

So that was that. After the doctors made it clear this isn't our fault, it is.

I'll get back to that later. 

The doctor called Friday night. There is nothing in her blood work in indicate all the issues she has with weight loss. She has an eating disorder. We need to circle the wagons. We need to get together on the same page and confront her and the issue. The plan, for now, is to meet in two weeks, with our options for nutritionists and therapists. Giving it two weeks to see if she loses any more weight. If there are any more issues prior, we can meet bore then.

Like her obsession with that others eat and telling us at dinner? Exercising at night when she should be sleeping? Yeah, those are new developments. I'll be calling tomorrow. Still on the hunt for a good book on this. sigh.